Twin flame connections change the lives of two people forever. The relationship between the two is not more important than others, but it does hold unique value.
You may hear the term “twin flame” thrown around without a thought. But a twin flame connection is not a light-hearted fling.
It is a deep connection that deserves love, care, and attention. Twin flames come into your life for a reason. If you have met yours, it is the strongest bond of your life. The strength is not in the sense of value but in the sense of intensity.
Your twin flame journey is going to be rough at times, but it all pays off in the end because it results in healing and growth. No one is truly ready for the intensity of the connection between twin flames. But it’s a journey you should feel lucky to go on.
What is a Twin Flame?
A twin flame is a special connection with someone whose focus is on spiritual growth. You two mirror each other and complete each other in some ways.
It’s important that twin flames are not in a one-way relationship. The connection should be symbiotic, and you must benefit each other.
Twin flames share secrets, insecurities, and strengths. They are best friends who come into each others’ lives for a reason.
The most popular theory for twin flames is that they are two halves of the same soul. They are mirrors that help you become better versions of yourself.
Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates: What’s the Difference?
Soulmates have similarities to twin flames but are different relationships. The biggest difference between soulmates and twin flames is that soulmates are usually romantic.
A soulmate is someone you spend your entire life (or their life) with after you meet them. In contrast, twin flames are kindred spirits that may phase in and out of each other’s lives.
Twin flames are said to be two halves of one soul, and soulmates are two souls who share a destiny.The two feel different, and the only way to truly understand is to experience both.
It is possible to have more than one of either. However, twin flames and soulmates cannot be the same person.
How Do You Know When You Meet Your Twin Flame?
A twin flame connection is sometimes difficult to spot. Often, the connection is not always a romantic relationship or a soulmate that comes into your life.
A twin flame is someone you have an intense relationship with for a specific reason. The connection you have is emotional and spiritual but not always physical.
The second you see this person, you feel a fire. They tend to be different from your other relationships and perhaps even someone you wouldn’t find yourself drawn to in most cases.
But there’s something about them that offsets you like a mirror. The relationship has the possibility to be romantic or platonic, but one thing is always consistent – it is life-changing.
Meeting your twin flame for the first time feels like deja vu. You get the feeling you’ve dreamt of this person or met them in another life.
You share part of your energy and feel at home with them. No one brings you comfort and understanding like your twin flame.
There is a theory that twin flames share a soul. The theory is not confirmed, but it explains the strong connection and is a good representation of what you are feeling.
Signs of a Twin Flame
- You feel an instant connection.
- You are at home with this person.
- You are so much alike.
- Your differences seem beautiful.
- They help you grow.
- There is spiritual tension, yet perfect flow.
- Your backgrounds are similar.
- They magnetize you.
- You meet at random.
Stages of a Twin Flame Relationship
Every twin flame relationship goes through a set of stages before reaching the perfect connection. It is possible to skip these stages or go through some of them so fast that you feel you skipped them.
Emptiness and yearning are the pre-stage of a twin flame relationship. You feel as if there’s something missing from your life.
There’s a chance you also feel as if something good is going to happen. The premonition is a sign you are about to meet your twin flame.
Chances are you don’t know what you’re missing. You may mistake it for a yearning for a new career, a romantic relationship, or a change in scenery.
But your heart and soul know that
The meeting stage for twin flames is instant recognition. You may not know they are your twin flame right away, but you feel something.
The feeling is akin to a dream-like state. You’ve never met this person, but part of you feels like you’ve known them your entire life.
There may also be an eerie feeling like you’re looking in a mirror in a dream. You see part of yourself in this person but may not realize it.
Falling in “Like”
As you get to know your twin flame, you start falling for them. The falling doesn’t mean love in every case.
It means that you are falling in “like” with them or in love with their spirit. This is similar to falling in love with yourself. You find out more about this person and are able to suspend judgment because you understand them so well.
At that last stretch of falling, the stars seem to align, and you enter what we call the honeymoon phase.
The honeymoon phase of a twin flame connection is blissful. The euphoric feelings overtake you, and you feel as if nothing could dampen your spirits.
Honeymoon stages with twin flames are not that different from honeymoon stages with a soulmate.You are giddy and always in a good mood.
However, if things seem too good to be true, then it is likely the case. Enjoy this phase, but know that it won’t last forever.
Right after the stars align, they shoot off in every direction from your twin flame. Sometimes, a specific action causes conflict, and sometimes, it’s as if you don’t see eye-to-eye on anything.
The conflict stage often leads to a twin flame separation. But it also happens to those who never undergo a separation.
Conflict with your twin flame is more intense than conflict with someone else. It feels like the end of the relationship and sometimes like the end of the world.
During a twin flame conflict period, you feel yourself going through mental health problems such as anxiety, depression, and breakdowns.You may even revert to old habits that you thought you were past.
All of this is an attempt to fill the empty void left by the “loss” of the deep connection. What you don’t realize at the time is that your twin flame connection isn’t lost. It’s all part of a natural process that leads to great things.
A time of reflection succeeds the conflict stage for twin flames. The pondering stage pushes you to question yourself.
Each twin flame looks at themselves and asks what they could have done better. The stage encourages growth, forgiveness, and acceptance.
You find yourself showing everyone around you more compassion and love during this time. You look to higher powers and mentors to guide you but ultimately trust yourself.
At the end of the pondering stage, you make peace with yourself and learn to forgive yourself. If you forgive yourself, you know it means you must forgive your twin flame.
After you realize how you were at equal fault and how your twin flame connection should not be in jeopardy, you reach acceptance.
You accept that no relationship is perfect, but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth fighting for. Your twin flame connection is too valuable to cast to the wayside over one disagreement.
The two of you connect again to reach the final stage of twin flame relationships. A stage that brings you ultimate peace.
The final stage for twin flames is connection. A perfect connection for twin flames is not the same as a perfect relationship.
The perfection connection is a sense of oneness and unity that nothing severs. You learn to balance the life you have with your twin flame for the rest of your life.
The connection you have lasts forever, even if you’re far apart or if one of you passes. The realization brings peace to your relationship and a feeling that you have found a home.
Are Twin Flames Toxic?
No, twin flames are not toxic by nature. But it is possible for them to become toxic. Because your twin flame is a mirror soul, they share many of the same insecurities and unhealthy habits.
Even habits you don’t share seem to bleed over. If one of you overeats, the other may encourage it and adapt to the unhealthy habit to be closer to you.
In cases you don’t develop or strengthen bad habits, twin flames have the tendency to be codependent. No codependent relationship is healthy. You become so involved in each other’s struggles that you fail to function if they are having a bad day.
You also lose diversity in your life as you prioritize your twin flame’s relationship above all others. It’s not good practice to lose your other relationships because you need more than just one strong connection in your life.
A variety of relationships and cultures in your life is crucial to your spiritual growth. Branch out and remember that you are an individual too.
Signs a Twin Flame is Toxic
- You have no time for yourself.
- All of your decisions go through them.
- You don’t feel right not seeing them for a day.
- You have no other relationships.
- Your other relationships are suffering.
- You pick up new bad habits.
- Your bad habits are getting worse.
- Your empathy is becoming inhibiting.
Does Everyone Have a Twin Flame?
No. It is difficult to hear, but not everyone has a twin flame connection. However, not having a twin flame is not a bad thing.
If the theory that twin flames are split souls is true, it means that if you don’t have a twin flame, your soul is whole.It’s possible you haven’t had as much heartache in your life due to not being with your twin flame.
Everything happens for a reason. So, whether you have a twin flame or not, it’s your destiny.
Can You Have More Than One Twin Flame?
Yes, it’s possible to have multiple twin flames but uncommon to have more than one. Your soul may be split into more than two parts.
You don’t realize you have more than one until twin flames separate. That’s the phase when you meet another twin flame.
It may not happen right away, but it could. Meeting second twin flames can happen a day after one connection ends or decades down the road.
The second twin flame differs from the first, but you still feel that intense connection. You’ve learned a lot from your previous connection, which makes this one even better.
If your soul is whole, you could still have numerous twin flames. Perhaps one of your twin flames passes on, or you have simultaneous flames. In such cases, you experience a “twin triplet” or “twin quadruplet.”
What Happens if You’re Separated from Your Twin Flame?
The separation of twin flames is a natural phase of your connection. There are two types of these separations – permanent and temporary.
The temporary separation of twin flames happens at times when life gets busy. Separations also happen in stages you need to grow alone without relying on your strong connection.
Permanent separations of twin flames are rare, but they do occur. These separations from your significant other happen in times of permanent physical moves or death.
Separation from your twin flame is not a bad thing. They are one (or sometimes more) relationship in life, but your life should not revolve around them.
Look at the positive you gain from your twin flame and let go of them in phases of life you feel yourself pull away. It is important to value twin flames and trust the process as your angels guide you through the ups and downs of the journey we call life.