Remember all that laughter and dancing at your wedding? How everything seemed so merry, and how pumped you were on your wedding day? Yes, that had to be the best day of your life. Although happy weddings are one thing, continuing to have a happily married life is a different challenge altogether.
My husband and I have been married for seventeen years, both being previously married before. We know what an unhappy marriage looks like and feels like, so we both did not want to repeat that cycle again.
We are always constantly working hard to find ways to improve our marriage and be happy. Our marriage is in no way perfect, but we think we have discovered the secrets of having a happy married life. You can read about our “Not So Average Love Story” here.
Whether you’ve been married for years or just tied the knot, living “happily ever after is one thing you want to have. Here are our 10 secrets for having a happy married life, plus some happy marriage quotes that we hope to bring encouragement.
Even the best couples argue
Sometimes when you argue with your partner, that doesn’t mean you’re in an unhappy marriage. It is a sign that everything is normal because couples fight and that’s okay. Arguments are followed by reconciliation that generally strengthens the bond. Just make sure that the argument isn’t going off the rails. Make necessary corrections if it does and you’re good.
Related: 6 Secrets to Healthy Conflict Resolution in Your Marriage
Arguments aren’t the end of the World
Arguments are like Tornadoes – destructive, scary, and loud. But you can always survive a Tornado, so why not those arguments? See it this way – arguments can act as a reset button to start afresh. You just have to see the positive side of things.
Communication in your marriage is essential
Communication (or lack thereof) in marriages seem to always be the number one relationship problem. It is essential that good communication is at the forefront of your marriage. Be honest with one another, communicate your feelings, thoughts, and frustrations. If communication is a struggle for you, consider writing a heartfelt love letter.
Laugh Together
Here’s the thing: there is enough negativity in your life already. Counter it by laughing and sharing smiles with your partner. It will do away with the stress and make your bond stronger. Crack silly jokes, send unexpected texts or simply watch funny videos together – you decide.
Your attitude does matter
A Negative attitude often invites negative feelings and vibes. Make sure you are kind and loving towards your partner. Good vibes are key to your successful marriage.
Romance, romance, romance
You love your partner. Isn’t it worth it to express your love in different, creative ways? For starters, you should always make efforts to date your spouse. If going out is not in the budget, that’s okay too. There are a ton of fun and inexpensive date night ideas you can do at home. Hug and kiss them every day. Make efforts to decorate your bedroom like a fancy honeymoon suite with lots of scented candles and pillows.
Keep your marriage promise
Always remember why you wanted to marry your partner in the first place. The promises you made, the efforts you put in. Keep your marriage promise.
Until death do us part
You love your partner “in sickness, and in health until death do us part.” That is great, but that’s not enough. Make sure you secure each other’s lives with a life insurance plan. Do your homework and learn about various life insurance benefits before buying your plan.
Be Responsible
Successful Couples will tell you that being responsible is key to a successful marriage. Be it a good or bad decision that you took, take ownership. Accept things. Your partner will appreciate your honesty and accountability.
Compliments = Prosperity
“A compliment a day keeps the divorce attorney away.”
How do you feel when someone compliments you? Good, no? If you make complimenting your partner a habit, it will do a world of good to them. Oh, and it will keep the spark alive between you two for sure!
Make Efforts
A successful & long-lasting marriage demands effort. When the time gets tough, step up and make efforts to get things back on track.
Having a Happily Married Life
Having a successful and happy married life can be summed up in three words:
“Marriage takes work.”
With the right efforts, planning, and determination, you can make your marriage successful for sure. Follow these tips and see the idea of “Forever” shaping into reality.
Related: 10 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Healthy
Happy Marriage Quotes
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate then when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
“A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.”
“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” –
“Who we marry is one of the most important decisions in life. One that will influence the level of happiness, growth, and success, like no other choice.” – Nathan Workman
“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.”
“There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.”
“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow–this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”
“Love is like a beautiful flower which I may not touch, but whose fragrance makes the garden a place of delight just the same.”
“The essence of marriage is companionship, and the woman you face across the coffee urn every morning for ninety-nine years must be both able to appreciate your jokes and to sympathize with your aspirations.”
“What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strength each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?”
“Your absence has not taught me to be alone, it merely has shown that when together we cast a single shadow on the wall.”
