Wedding Thank You Notes
The honeymoon might be over, but your wedding to-do list lives on. That’s right, you still have to write wedding thank you notes, so don’t put it off. In fact, you should have been sending thank-you notes all along to anyone who attended your engagement or bachelor/bachelorette parties and bridal shower, as well as anyone who bought you pre-wedding gifts.
Grab a box of rollerball gel ink pens, and a roll of Forever stamps. If you can, set up a thank you card writing station in your home office or in your dining room. Sit down with your favorite playlist and your adult beverage of choice and get started writing out those thank-you notes.
Tips for Writing Wedding Thank You Cards
Now that the “I dos” have been said, you need to personally thank everyone who attended your wedding, contributed financially or practically to making it happen, bought you a wedding gift, or sent a gift in their absence.
And while wedding guests might have a year to send gifts, you should aim to complete all of your thank you notes within a much tighter time frame.
Can you send a digital wedding thank you note?
Wedding thank you notes should never be sent by email or text. Your thank you cards should always be handwritten on some pretty stationery and sent via snail mail, so for that, you need a list of physical addresses. Hopefully, you kept a copy of your wedding guest list – you should already have physical addresses for everyone who received your save-the-dates and invitations.
Do you send thank you cards to everyone who attended the wedding?
Do you really have to write a personal thank you note to everyone who was involved in your wedding and pre-wedding celebrations, or who gave you a gift? Yes, you do.
You will need to send thank you notes to the following:
- Anyone who attended your engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, bachelor party, or other pre-wedding celebrations.
- The hosts of your engagement party, bridal shower, and bachelor/bachelorette parties.
- Anyone who did you favors the week of the wedding, help you set up, or otherwise contributed practically to help the wedding be a success.
- Anyone who contributed financially to the wedding.
- Anyone who attended the wedding, whether or not they brought a gift.
- Anyone who did not attend but sent a gift in their absence.
- Anyone who gave you gifts before, at, or after the wedding.
- The members of your wedding party.
- Your officiant.
- The wedding vendors and, of course, your parents.
That’s a long list, which is why you’ll need to get cracking on your wedding thank you notes right away.
Keep Track of Completed Thank Yous
Once you’ve assembled your list of addresses, you’ll want to put together a spreadsheet that can help you track both who gave or did what, and whether or not they have yet been properly thanked.
It’s easiest to keep track of who gave and did what as you go. Checking names off the list after they’ve been thanked will feel great, and it’ll guarantee that no one gets left out.
Should you use wedding stationery?
The task of writing wedding thank you notes presents the perfect opportunity to buy personalized couples stationery. But there are plenty more uses for couples stationery – this won’t be the last time you’ll have occasion to send thank you notes.
Don’t skimp on the stationery order, because you can use these personalized thank you notes to thank friends and family for birthday or holiday gifts, baby shower gifts, housewarming presents, and the like.
What do you say in the wedding thank you note?
What do you say in these personal notes?
Wording for your wedding thank you notes will vary somewhat depending on what the person did for you, whether they got you a gift, and whether it was a physical gift or cash. Address the recipient by name. Make sure to include a personal detail in each of your notes.
Mention specifically what the person did for you, or, if they got you a physical gift, what it was; if they got you cash, though, don’t mention the amount in the thank you note. You can just make vague allusions to generosity instead.
You can feel free to delegate the thanking of your spouse’s friends and relatives to him or her.
But if you’re writing to someone you don’t know well or maybe haven’t really met yet, you can acknowledge that and express that you’re looking forward to meeting/getting to know them better in the future.
How long after a wedding, should you mail a thank you card?
You should send wedding thank you notes as soon as possible after the wedding – most modern etiquette guides say within two to three months, although you can take as long as a year if you had a large wedding. Send thank you notes for gifts given and parties thrown before the wedding within two to three weeks.
Personalized, handwritten thank you notes are a thoughtful way to show your friends, relatives, and everyone else involved in your wedding that you’re grateful for their contribution.
Don’t let members of your community come away from your wedding experience feeling slighted. It might take a while to write notes for everyone on your list, but the strengthened bonds with your network will make doing so well worthwhile.
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